*This post was composed by my man The Mario Washington (It’s like A Tribe Called Quest, you’ve got to say the whole thing.)
It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.
Andre Gide (1869 – 1951)
Hate is so akin to love that without one, the other can’t exist. When you realize that you are hated, so detested….it is an exhilarating feeling. It is a feeling of being alive. It’s almost like the breath of life has filled your lungs for the first time. Life flows through your veins for the first time when you are hated.
I don’t know what it is like to hate anyone. I don’t even know what it is like to dislike someone. Every person that exists in your world plays some significant role into you becoming you! And that is including the people that seem to do every horrible thing imaginable to you. All things shape your being good and bad. If bad things and bad people and bad events didn’t take place, there would be no measurement for what something good is. Bad things shape our being.
The above quote is a testament to being true to yourself. There is nothing, or noone that should make you change who you are for their love. Eventually acceptance has to come into play and the realization has to set in that despite all of your struggles to prove your worth, you are worth only as much as the object of your affection values you. It doesn’t matter if you’re willing to give your life for something or someone….if that something or someone doesn’t value you in the same manner, your many attempts are futile.
So if you’re not the exact same special thing that you’ve placed so much importance on in the eyes of another’s list of important things, don’t worry. And don’t do anything to change you to make a difference in the way that person feels about you. Because “It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”